Dec 13 2008
Has my Boy become a Man? Do I really want to know?
Happy December 13th, 2008
Thinking about your child having sex is sorta like thinking about your parents having sex,
*!*kinda freaks you out*!*
Before I get to the point,
let me say that we’ve had “The Talk”, as mother and son, he’s had “The Talk” with his father.
This is not a post on how to talk about sex with your teen, we’ve got that covered.
You always hear about fathers being so proud of their sons when they become a man. It’s almost ritualistic, complete with cigars and lots of “Atta boys”, the elbow to the ribs thing, winks etc. etc. Fathers have no problem with the thought of their boy having sex, and almost look forward to the day they can pat them on the back.
(Daughters are a completely different post)…
So what’s the deal with mothers?
Some mothers either turn their heads the other way pretending it isn’t happening or won’t, or become very vocal . Telling their son he is NOT ALLOWED to have sex, that sex is bad and shaming him for even thinking about it. All the while cementing the fact that her son will NEVER come to her for advice or help.
I don’t fall into either one of those categories and I feel those impressions of mothers are on their way to becoming extinct. Which is great!
But here’s my dilemma and challenge:
Fathers learned how to react to their sons coming of age from their fathers. Mothers learned from their mothers. Seems simple, but I DON’T want to act like my mother, and moms talking to sons is a whole different ballgame than moms talking to daughters.
It’s uncharted territory and I’m not sure what I want to know, if I want to know it, and how to navigate the waters when it’s discussed.
I would love to hear from moms and dads on this topic. That is enough for today. This post will continue tomorrow.
